What happens if my ex stops paying for child support?
Court-ordered child support is a legal obligation, and should not be ignored for any reason. If your ex-spouse has stopped paying child support payments, then you have the right to take action and defend your child’s rights. Child support payments are a lifeline for many people. They provide financial support for your child’s daily living expenses, including their food, clothing, education, and other necessities. If your ex-partner stops paying child support, you should then seek legal counsel from an experienced family law attorney in Houston.
Enforcing child support orders can be a challenge. However, it is essential that you do not take matters into your own hands by refusing visitation. The court will not look favorably on you if you do this. Instead, you need professional help. At Skillern Firm Divorce & Child Custody Lawyers, our attorneys have over 160 years of combined experience in family law. Our founder, Mathew Skillern, has an AVVO rating of 10.0, the highest possible rating based on years in service, awards, honors, and professional associations. We fight tirelessly to protect the rights and best interests of our clients, and to secure a bright future for you and your children.
Speak to an experienced child support attorney in Houston today at (713) 229-8855 if you need help enforcing child support.
What to do about a missing child support payment
A court order for child support payments is legally binding. However, it is important to tread carefully and avoid worsening the situation. If you immediately begin with legal action, it could make your relationship with your ex even more difficult, which can inadvertently affect your children.
Work Out the Missed Payment On Your Own
The first step should be to speak to your ex-spouse. For some people, this might be difficult, and if speaking to them puts you in any danger, or if they refuse to speak to you, then skip this step. In these situations, local child support services might be able to help enforce child support orders.
However, if your ex is amicable, try to find out if they have a valid reason for missing their child support payment. For example, they may have recently lost their job or crashed their car, which may have made money unusually tight that month. If possible, try to come to an arrangement while they get back on their feet. For instance, you could accept a smaller payment this month and have them make up for it in upcoming months.
Seek Child Support Enforcement
On the other hand, if they have no good reason not to pay you and are still refusing to cooperate, then it is time to look at your legal options. An experienced child support attorney from Skillern Firm can help explain your options for recovering past-due child support payments, file all necessary paperwork, and represent you in court if it becomes necessary.
Never Withhold Visitation Because of Missed Payments
We can’t stress this enough. If your ex-spouse repeatedly misses payments, then it is understandable that you want to deny visitation as a way to punish them. However, visitation and child support are two separate issues, and the court will not look kindly upon you if you withhold visitation. It could result in you also being held responsible for contempt of a court order.
What Are the Consequences of Failing to Pay Child Support?
In Texas, both parents have a legal obligation to support the upbringing of their children, and failure to meet those obligations can result in serious penalties, including a criminal offense. Potential penalties the court may use to enforce child support orders against the delinquent parent include:
- Automatically deduct funds from their paycheck or other income sources such as unemployment benefits, tax refunds, or lottery winnings.
- The court may issue fines of up to $500 for every non-payment.
- Denial of a new or renewed passport.
- File liens against their assets.
- Reporting past-due amounts to credit agencies.
- A Texas court could issue a jail sentence of up to six months for contempt of court due to unpaid child support.
- The court could order the other parent to pay your attorney and legal fees.
- Suspending their driver’s or other professional license.
Other Penalties to Consider
In addition to the enforcement measures mentioned above, a parent can experience other negative consequences for failing to pay child support. Perhaps most troubling is the strain it can cause on the parent-child relationship. Without financial support from a parent, a child may not get the things he or she needs, which can be devastating. It can also cause or reinforce negative feelings a child has for a parent.
Further, delinquency can be embarrassing when employers, colleagues, and friends learn about it. And in some cases, the court can publicly identify a non-paying parent as a Child Support Evader.
Unpaid Child Support Doesn’t Disappear
If your ex-spouse keeps missing child support payments, then they will keep accumulating, and they are subject to interest. Even if your ex seeks a modification and the court agrees to reduce payment, they won’t reduce what they already owe you. There is no statute of limitations on unpaid child support, so it will never simply disappear. The Child Support Division can organize payments so that the parents do not have to interact with each other if necessary.
What If My Ex Wants to Modify Child Support?
We understand that it is frustrating if you are having to pay for all your child’s needs and your ex-spouse won’t take responsibility. However, sometimes things happen that are out of their control. In this situation, they may seek a child support modification with the court.
According to the Texas Family Code, grounds for modification of child support include:
- A substantial or material change in circumstances, such as job loss, changing needs of the child, such as illness, changes to the child’s living arrangements, changes in employment, or increased caring expenses for other dependents.
- Three years have passed since the existing order, and the amount in child support that would be awarded under up-to-date guidelines differs by either 20% or $100.
The court will not grant modifications for other reasons, such as disputes between parents. Either parent can request a child support modification, or it can be applied for jointly.
Agreed Vs. Contested Child Support Modification
A child support order modification will be easier if both parents agree. In which case, you can submit a motion for modification jointly with the court. It could still be helpful to seek advice from an attorney as they will ensure that everything is in order, maximizing the chances of your modification being accepted. If parents cannot agree, then a contested modification will take longer, and the court will want to see that you have at least tried to come to an agreement.
When one parent applies for a modification, the other party will be served with modification papers and they will have 20 days to respond. If they fail to do so and the judge agrees to the modification, they may approve it by default. If your ex-spouse is trying to modify child support and you do not believe that they should, then you should contact an attorney as soon as possible.
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Why You Should Seek Help From Skillern Firm Divorce & Child Custody Lawyers
If your ex-spouse repeatedly misses child support payments, then it is essential you hold them accountable for their actions. Bringing up children isn’t cheap or easy, and both parents have a legal responsibility to support their children. Not only do missed child support payments bring a lot of frustration and stress, but it also negatively affects your children who miss out on the support they need.
At Skillern Firm Divorce & Child Custody Lawyers, our goal is always to achieve what is in the best interests of the child. We will know the right level of force to take depending upon your individual case and we will strive to keep things as amicable as possible. Protecting your relationship might be an important aspect of your case, and we respect that. However, we are prepared to take your ex to court if necessary. Here are a few of the other reasons why you should choose Skillern Firm Divorce & Child Custody Lawyers as your family law representative.
We Solely Practice Family Law
We have a speciality focus on family law, which allows us to dedicate all of our time and resources to matters that affect our clients.
Proven Track Record
We have a proven track record of success and we are more than happy to share past victories with you from our previous clients who were dealing with situations that are similar to yours.
We Are Associated With Local State Bars
Our director Mathew Skillern is part of the Houston Bar Association, State Bar of Texas, and the Fort Bend County Bar Association. These affiliations ensure that we adhere to the highest standards of legal conduct.
We Offer a Personalized Approach
Although you come to us for legal counsel, we offer a highly personalized approach. We take the time to get to know you and your situation so that we can offer the best possible advice. We are on hand to answer your legal questions, but will also act as a source of support when you need us. If you have any questions, we won’t leave you waiting for days for an answer. We are always prompt and strive to be as supportive as we can.
Frequently Asked Questions
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In the United States, it is common for people to struggle with child support payments. In fact, in 2011, the amount of unpaid child support across the United States equated to $14.3 billion dollars.
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If you are struggling to cope while you await child support payments, then you will need to find a way to manage your money. This can be an enormous struggle, but your options may include seeking more work, asking a family member for help, and cutting down on expenses.
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Regardless of whether you take your ex-spouse to a court or not, an attorney is still invaluable. They can assess your options and inform you about what your rights and responsibilities are. They will estimate what going to court will cost you, and how long it would take for you to receive what you are owed.
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In Texas, parents are also required to provide medical support, as well as dental support if your divorce case began after September 1st, 2018. The parent who pays child support should also provide medical and dental coverage if it is available at a reasonable cost. (Reasonable cost is no more than 9% of the payer’s annual income for medical insurance, and for dental support, it is 1.5%).
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If your ex-spouse no longer lives in Texas, then the CSD can use federal law to seek help from other states’ child support enforcement agencies to help you collect child support from them.
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If your ex-spouse was ordered to pay child support but refuses, then the court will find ways to hold them accountable. However, visitation and child support are separate issues and will not affect each other.