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Pregnant and divorcing: Tips to help you manage both

| Jul 24, 2020 | Divorce

Being pregnant can be an overwhelming experience for many women. Beyond the physical toll of pregnancy, like nausea and an expanding belly, there is also a host of emotional changes and concerns that can come with pregnancy. Divorcing during pregnancy can, therefore, be especially challenging and stressful.

Here are a few areas mothers-to-be will want to focus on to make their lives a little easier.

Monitor the health of you and your baby

As a pregnant woman, you should attend all your doctor appointments, practice self-care and keep your living environment safe. During a divorce, these tasks can be challenging, and you may need to take some extra precautions to make sure you and your unborn baby are healthy.

For instance, talk with the father and your attorney to set rules for the father regarding attending the birth, as well as medical bills and health insurance concerns. Addressing issues like this and creating a plan can reduce uncertainty in your life and minimize potential stress.

You should also make sure you are somewhere safe and healthy. Pregnant women need plenty of rest and proper nutrition. If your living conditions or your ex jeopardize these things, consider seeking temporary spousal support or a protective order.

Know the legal landscape

Texas courts generally will not finalize a divorce while one party is pregnant. As such, if you are pregnant and there are no extenuating circumstances, do not expect the proceedings to finish until after you have your baby.

Even so, you can still discuss various divorce-related issues, especially if both parties are amicable and willing to work towards resolutions. You may be able to reach agreements on property division and spousal support. You might also talk about how you plan to approach custody, though you must understand that a Texas court will not sign off on anything until after your baby is born.

If one or both parties are unsure of paternity, you will need to get a paternity test to establish who the biological father is before the divorce is final.

See the big picture

There is no doubt that divorce and pregnancy are consuming, emotional experiences. To go through them simultaneously is not easy.

However, know that you will get through this time, as both situations will eventually resolve. In the meantime, surround yourself with supportive loved ones and try to find moments of joy in life you are creating.